tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post8299020176245393183..comments2023-03-20T02:39:20.424-05:00Comments on Many Roses: C-section -- the "easy" birthAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04228541069113451967noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post-57948910784385893632012-05-09T17:03:01.993-05:002012-05-09T17:03:01.993-05:00Amanda, that just breaks my heart. No one should b...Amanda, that just breaks my heart. No one should be belittled because of how her birth ended up. I have gotten alot of people saying things like "i knew you wouldn't be able to handle the pain" (speaking of the epidural I got) and others saying things like "the doctors convinced you it was necessary" (speaking of the c-section). Its just plain silly. I came into this birth/labor fully aware of what to expect, and I knew what I wanted and I knew what the pros and cons of EVERY aspect was. How dare you ignorant person who has no clue about anything with birth belittle me or tell me I couldn't handle it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04228541069113451967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post-80440605307134828332012-05-08T18:20:19.934-05:002012-05-08T18:20:19.934-05:00Kari, I could not have said it better myself. I wa...Kari, I could not have said it better myself. I wanted so badly to have the natural birth. Due to health concerns as soon as I was admitted labor was induced and an epidural was started right away to help lower my b/p, well that made me crash and I spent the next 24 hours completley out of it laying in a bed. After having my water broken for over 12 hours and no progressing we came to the heartbreaking choice to have a c-section, it was getting to the point where my health and Angelyna's health would be in danger and I did not want any of that. I remember sitting in the hospital trying to have a bm finally and crying in pain and my husband feeling so helpless cause there was nothing he could do for me and the first night I could not even get up to change my daughters diaper. I slept on our couch for about 3 weeks after surgery because I could not lay flat on a bed. I ended up with a c-section with my son as well and I wanted so badly to have a vbac but it was not in the cards to do so, I have to say it was an easier recovery but I think that has something to do with the fact that I was more prepared. I have a sister in law that still belittles me that I had a c-section and she delivered 2 with no drugs and within 30 min of getting to the hospital. Yes I had cesections but I did not take the easy way. And due to scarring and never ending pain I ended up with a hysterectomy at the age of 28. If I could have had the natural birth I would have but God had other plans and I have 2 beautifl healthy children. I am just now starting to get over the feeling that I was a failure when I couldn't naturally deliver Angelyna, but I was pre-eclamptic, my b/p was thru the roof and I would not dialate.Amandanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post-37241472542219734122012-05-07T20:06:16.800-05:002012-05-07T20:06:16.800-05:002 babies, I was lucky with both (and by that I do ...2 babies, I was lucky with both (and by that I do NOT mean that I got a scheduled table time). C-sections terrify me! No thank you - you are so brave. And I'm so sorry things didn't go like you wanted, but as we know, they rarely do! Still, I can't imagine why people want them. I think it's that last little ounce of control. But hey - somethings are just "primal" as my OBGYN told me. And you can't script primal.<br /><br /> To go a little Seussish..."I would not could not with a knife, I would not could not for my life. I do not like cesarean. It is not part of my birth plan." :-)Farhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05473948221531261726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post-14022357531622644342012-05-07T18:05:01.254-05:002012-05-07T18:05:01.254-05:00my comment didnt post and it was to long to re typ...my comment didnt post and it was to long to re type but i will shorten it in this one . i agree with you for the most part kari i had a natural birth and am glad i did because my next birth i will not be allowed to have one due to all the complications i had with Athena i tore 3 times and had two sets of stitches because the first set broke down and an additional surgery,i still at this point a month later am having some complications BUT i agree with you on the selective c-section every mother who has the chance to give birth naturally should trycharlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12139810467043128036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post-3473324874317429972012-05-07T09:58:51.413-05:002012-05-07T09:58:51.413-05:00Thanks Amanda for commenting. I appreciate you con...Thanks Amanda for commenting. I appreciate you confirming my . To often people believe that a C-section is easy. I'm glad I'm not the only one with these feelings.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04228541069113451967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3488359790928580462.post-73903821552009147782012-05-07T07:55:59.343-05:002012-05-07T07:55:59.343-05:00I agree with you completely. I have had 3 C-Sectio...I agree with you completely. I have had 3 C-Sections. I too heard all the " you got it easy" and the " I wish I could have just done the C-Sections because vaginally was the WORST pain ever". Now I believe that it hurts like heck to have a child naturally, but when it comes to C-Sections I feel it hurts more. I would have much rather had a couple days at most to feel the pain opposed to weeks of. It. I too still have no feeling around my incision sight and my last baby is almost 4 (years)! I applaud you for speaking your mind and getting the cons about C-Sections and how un-natural they really are.Amandanoreply@blogger.com